When you just starting to build- or should I say, “uncover” your healthy thin mentality your body may need patience as you learn what hunger feels like.
Of course you are new at this and your body is confused.
Your best tool is to stay in the present. Calmy- Am I hungry- not sure? Try a bit? Feel better? sometimes that just desire to eat IS hunger- Hunger is expressed in many ways with all of your senses Just as when you are attracted to another human- there could be many signs.
This is not weird of revolutionary. Mother Nature was going to make sure that we eat- so we survive. I used to ignore cues that I thought were not hunger. Now I know if I can’t get my mind off of food, I am indeed hungry, even if my stomach isn’t growling.
If you eat and your tastebuds are happy, happy- you were hungry- The way to lose weight with your healthy thin mentality is to DELAY eating more when that hunger stops signaling you to eat. You must pay attention to this and say- Could I be done? Could this be enough? Do I need more to calm hunger- YOU CAN DO THIS Give you self a chance!!
Bring this analogy to mind whenever you are eating without hunger.
Imagine it is raining outside and then picture yourself standing there, with a hose, watering your flowers. Doesn’t that seem ridiculous?
It is just as ridiculous to eat without hunger as it is to water flowers in the rain.
But over and over again, we have been told to ignore the “weather,” (your hunger, your lack of hunger) and water your flowers (eat) based on some schedule instead of your actual needs.
I know, I know, you think you don’t know your needs. Stop.
When you start paying attention to the weather- (again, your hunger,) you will start to notice it. Remember, you are used to ignoring your body. You keep your head down and eat because some celebrity told you to, or not to, and you eat what you eat because it is the “healthy, magic” food of the year.
But your amazingly resilient body is just waiting for you to start listening again. You will do return to your ideal weight doing things such as:
NO food rules, no deprivation, no struggle.
Hungry? Eat. What do you eat?
Use your common sense and eat food that makes you feel good. If you love spicy food but it makes you feel sick, do you eat it? Duh! No. If you eat chocolate and it makes your pms go away should you eat it when you are hungry for it? Yes. If you drink milk and it upsets your stomach should you drink it? No! If you love bread pudding but you feel tired and sleepy after you eat it should you eat it? Duh!!! NO. If you eat a kale salad with salmon and you feel great for hours afterwards should you eat it? Well, what do you think?
People, use your common sensed and stop paying for food advice.
Not hungry? Stop watering your flowers in the rain.
When I was a dieter, I answered these questions completely differently than I do now, with a healthy Thin Mentality.
I. If there is some food left on my plate, I
II. When I am about to go to bed and am hungry
III. When I know I have to get into a bathing suit in a week I
IV. When I am sick and know I am dehydrated I
V. When I go to a burrito bar,
When I was a dieter, I would answer these questions like this:
With my Healthy Thin Mentality, I answer these questions
Do you see how much better life is with a Healthy Thin Mentality? Don’t the dieter answers seem sad? But I want you to know this too: I understand that you want to be a nice weight. I know you want to fit into your favorite jeans. What I am trying to tell you, without body shaming anyone, is that your Healthy Thin Mentality will not only make you happier and de-stressed around food. It will get you to your best weight.
If I could scream this from the top of a mountain so that all dieters could hear this, I would. Help me scream this message. I can’t afford ads on TV!!
Eating really healthful foods, when you are hungry and crave them is great.
But I hear a lot of people express how “healthfully” they eat without any consideration of when and how much of that healthful food they eat. It is as if they believe that the more healthful food you eat, the healthier they will be.
But that is not true.
Eating an organic avocado when you are not hungry is not healthful.
Eating an organic avocado when you are hungry and crave it, is.
That difference may not seem enormous to you, but it is. In the first example, eating something “healthful” is a higher priority than listening to your body to know if your body needs food.
And if your body doesn’t need food, then eating, not matter what it is, is not in harmony with your hunger. And that disrespect of your body’s voice is not the way to build a healthy Thin Mentality that will bring you to your ideal weight, and a peaceful and stress-free relationship with eating and your body.
And there is some research out there that points to the value of giving your body a break from eating. For example, instead of eating a lot of small meals, eating less often. Interestingly, my healthy thin mentality has brought me to this kind of eating. I go for longer periods of time without eating than I did when I was a dieter. But please understand this very very important point: this behavior is in complete harmony with my own unique hunger rhythms. Whatever your unique hunger patterns dictate, respect them, whether your hunger demands that you eat less or more frequently.
As always, the moral of the story is to respect your body’s voice and these principles:
Oh yes, fun matters.
If I could lose the weight, I would feel more confident to voice my opinion. I feel like my weight makes me look like I am undisciplined, so I feel shy and less secure.
Dieting was beating up my self esteem. I felt like a failure when I couldn’t keep weight off. Now that I understand that dieting was never going to work, and I have reconnected hunger with eating, I feel so much stronger and confident.
How your thin mentality improves self-esteem:
Like I always say, your thin mentality is the best gift that you will ever give yourself.