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Let me give you an example.
I didn’t get home until late last Friday night. I didn’t have to get up on Saturday morning for anything in particular, so I slept in until 10. A friend of mine and I had arranged, earlier in the week, to meet at a Mexican restaurant at 11:30 for lunch on Saturday.
So, I woke up, didn’t eat anything, and went to meet my friend. When I got to the restaurant, I realized that I wanted breakfast, and that there was absolutely nothing on the menu that sounded good to me. Remember, this is a restaurant I love, but my body wanted breakfast, and a fajita was not going to answer what I was craving.
Even though I have lived with a thin mentality for 11 years, I talked myself into ordering chicken tacos. Mistake. They came, and I looked at them, and said nope, this isn’t going to work.
I asked for them in a “to go” box, watched my friend enjoy her lunch, and sipped some coffee. Now I wasn’t in “stage three” hunger, (I talk about this in my book, but basically, stage tree hunger is when you are so hungry that you are miserable) so I managed to still enjoy my time with my friend.
Then, after we parted ways, I went to the coffee shop down the road and sat at the counter and ordered exactly what I was craving: bacon eggs, and toast. And more coffee. It tasted great, and my whole body was happy.
The amount of calories or nutrition in what I ate versus what I took home in the “to go” box from the Mexican restaurant is irrelevant.
My body, for whatever reason, wanted bacon, eggs and toast. ( I don’t care why!! I trust myself!) I ate all the eggs and bacon, and had part of the toast. I did this without judgment, I simply followed my “craving” and kept checking in with myself, asking myself, “have I had enough?”
What is the moral this story?
In order to “heal” the disconnect between you and your body, you must refuse to eat something your body does not want. And you must do the best you can to provide your body with what it craves. Remember, “crave” is not a bad word. You will crave nutritious food and desserts. Cravings are a gift.
And when that healing is complete, you will NEVER feel the urge to binge. There is zero payoff for binging when you live with a thin mentality. You get to eat what you want whenever you want it, so why would you stuff down a box of cookies?
You are free to eat when you are hungry. Denying hunger is what makes you binge. You did not get fat eating when you were hungry. You got fat eating for other reasons, and as a backlash from severe dieting.
I also realize that it might be extremely inconvenient, if not impossible, to do what I did and leave one restaurant and go to another to get what you want. If it hadn’t been a Saturday, it would have been hard for me too.
I am just trying to show you an example of how to handle different situations that will come up as you transition to a thin mentality.
And by the way, remember that despite how inconvenient what I did might have been, it is much more convenient than living as a dieter. It doesn’t even compare. The whole world of food and restaurants, and wonderful events are all open to me. I have no fear, or anxiety that I will “blow” it.
And that is extremely convenient, and makes me very happy. You can live like this too, it just takes time and a long term perspective, not a quick fix mentality. It is worth it. I promise.
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