I hate to say that I regret part of my life, but I can tell you I wish that I could talk to my younger self and teach myself what I am trying to communicate to you.
All that wasted time and energy on losing, gaining, losing, gaining. Such a pity.
I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to find daily support for your thin mentality. You need to do this until you feel strong enough to defend your thin mentality against all of the dieting messages you hear from the media, and, honestly, from your friends and family.
So, until you are strong, please check in with this blog, or Facebook, or leaf through a few pages of my book everyday. Or, if you find this thin mentality message elsewhere, that is great.
I am so happy that the Facebook page is starting to get some good conversations and comments going because I think it is so important that you see others making progress, and having problems, and solving them!
For instance, if you over eat one day, remember that panicking about that is a diet mentality. Use that “over eating” as a way to remind yourself how it feels to be overfull. It ISN’T fun, is it?
Eating when hungry is fun. Yes, eating is fun! Over eating is not. (Dieters think it would be fun to stuff their faces with chocolate- but that is because they are stuck in a “good food” vs “bad food” world… A few bites of chocolate when you crave it is wonderful. Bingeing on it is NOT).
But don’t berate yourself after a binge. That is a diet mentality too. Relax, learn, improve. 🙂
Share your thoughts and concerns, if you like, here (in the comments) or on Facebook. It is also good because it helps me to figure out what I should talk about in this blog!
I just noticed a slight hunger pang. (Not pain, pang- it is NOT painful to be slightly hungry) So now I am just saying to myself, oh good, I will have a little something wonderful before I go to bed. (Eating before bed, a big dieters no no- But not for me anymore!) I am not going to rush to eat right away. I want to make sure my body wants something. I will wait for stage 2 hunger and then I will enjoy.