- If I can’t even control my weight, what does that say about me?
- I don’t deserve a new bathing suit because I did not lose the weight I promised myself that I would.
- Secretly, I think thin people are smarter, and more disciplined than me..
- I am not going to eat any food I like so I won’t be tempted and I won’t gain weight back.
- Every part of my body has too much fat on it, and since I gained weight back, it is really squishy.
- If I don’t go on vacation with my family, I won’t have to get in a bathing suit, and I can eat diet food all week alone at home instead.
Dieting is restriction, payback, rejecting your body, and rejecting your life.
You avoid parties, food, and friends so you can “stay” on your diet. Dieting makes you sad and more likely to feel lonely and isolated. For example, you didn’t lose weight this am, which makes you sad, so you aren’t going out for coffee because you don’t want to be tempted by the bakery, so you stay home and isolate yourself, and then you go to bed, early, to avoid the ice cream in the fridge.
Do you see how dieting is about living your life from a point of weakness and negativity. It is from disconnecting from yourself and letting someone else, some expert, take the reigns and tell you what to eat, when to eat.
This simply leaves you weak, sad and feeling defeated.
(Yes the first diet experience is different than this, because you lose weight the first time you diet. And it isn’t so bad. But no one ever diets once. And what does that tell us??)
Your healthy Thin Mentality is about Love. Corny, I know, but true. It is
- Loving food
- Loving your body’s voice
- Loving lifes
Your healthy Thin Mentality is about nurturing, Nuturing your love for food, your body, your life.
It is about waking up in the morning and not succumbing to a scale. It is about choosing when and what to eat based on what your body is asking you to provide.
It is about your strength, your rejection of advertisements designed to cripple your self-trust, and your commitment to respecting your body.
When you nuture love– love of yourself, your body and your wisdom,–you thrive. And, you realize that eating without hunger isn’t fun. It isn’t loving.
It is disrespectful of your body.
Think, “How can I best nurture myself? What food, beverage, activity, relaxation would please my body.
Nurture, not punish. Love, not hate.