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Ridiculous “Expert” Diet Advice

Anderson Cooper had a “diet expert” on his show yesterday, July 18 2012Cooper1.  I mentioned it on Facebook but thought that it could use some more analysis.

The expert was very chatty about the importance of “environmental control” as a way to help lose weight.   Her advice included:

  • Don’t use the kitchen door, use the main door to get in your house, so you think about eating.
  • Paint your kitchen blue because that doesn’t stimulate eating like yellow or red. the colors fast food chains use.
  • Hide the “bad” food in the drawers of your refrigerator.

Do you see what a diet mentality this kind of advice perpetrates?

Instead of eating because you are hungry, you control your  weight by “controlling” your surroundings.  Do you see how “back asswords” this is?

When you develop a thin mentality, you can deal with anything that life throws your way.  You are calm and happy with respect to your body and eating.  You are not a “victim” of circumstance, as this “diet expert” paints us.

You are in charge of you, not the color of your kitchen!  Your body and psyche are in harmony.  You eat because of hunger.  And you enjoy it and look forward to it.

The diet “expert” thinks that this is what will happen:

Oh yes, I will “hide” the food I really want in the drawer of my fridge, and I am so easily fooled that I will forget it is there, and I will eat an apple instead and I will never miss eating that bread.

This is what will really happen:

I know there is some bread and butter in the bottom drawer, and I am really hungry and that is what my body is craving, probably because I worked out yesterday, pretty hard.    But instead, I will eat this apple.  Then, after a few weeks of this, I will go on a binge and eat a whole loaf of bread and a bunch of butter on it.  I won’t enjoy it that much because I will shove it down really quickly and I will feel very guilty.   Then I will wake up the next day feeling really awful and berate myself for eating all that bread.


If you allowed yourself to eat some nice toast with butter when your hungry body was asking for it, you would NOT gain weight, and you would NOT set yourself up for a binge.

You would eat it without judgment.  You wouldn’t eat more than you actually want because you were thinking, “I have blown it, might as well eat more.”  Thin people don’t think that way.

And over time, your body would begin to trust you.  You would listen to your hunger and satiety cues and get really really good at answering your body with the type and amount of food that is appropriate for you at the moment in time.

That is what thin people do.  They don’t hide food!  They look forward to eating it when they are hungry!

Thin people use the kitchen door if they feel like it, knowing that walking through a kitchen is in NO WAY a reason to eat.  There is no fear of the kitchen!  Geez!

And if they want a blue kitchen because they like blue, they paint it blue.  But the idea that you would paint your kitchen a color to control your eating is, to a thin mentality person, (like YOU CAN BE)  utterly idiotic.

Does this make sense to you??

Act like a thin person, and you will become on.  Act like a crazed dieter, and you will be a crazed dieter for the rest of your life.  I am so sad that so many people are crazed dieters.  LIfe is too short and wonderful to do that to yourself…


Why biggest loser is part of the problem


Teasers for the Biggest Loser showed Jillian yelling at people who were on treadmills.  The contestants were getting upset and feeling overwhelmed.  The voice over was all about this drama.

Why?  Because the show wants an audience and this juicy drama brings viewers in.

Remember this!  This is entertainment, not good instruction for getting into shape!

Jumping into incredibly hard workouts while someone is yelling at you is a recipe for… ending up back on the couch!!!

Ugh-  This is such a disservice to people who need to start working out.

Folks, that is NOT how it has to be.  That woman on the treadmill was working really hard just to walk.  She is carrying a lot of extra weight.  I want to tell her good job!!

I would encourage her to make moving her body as pleasant as she possibly could.  If that involved taking a break and regaining her breath, I would say fine!

You know why?

Because in order to make exercise a permanent addition to you life, it is important to make it reasonable.  And someone who hasn’t exercised at all and who is overweight, needs to start slowly and build up stamina and endurance.

Then, you can gradually increase the duration and intensity.

Just like listening to your hunger and satiety teaches you to trust yourself, your body needs you to listen to exhaustion and physical misery too!   That way, when you need to motivate yourself to get moving, your body isn’t sending you big “NO!” signals.

Be kind and respectful of your body, at this moment.  Deal with  your size and physical condition appropriately.  Being unreasonable only leads to ultimate failure.


The Stages of Developing your Healthy Thin Mentality



Remember that your thin mentality will get you to a normal lean healthy weight.  It will not get you weird skinny because Mother Nature is wise.

So, for those of you who want to be underweight, please understand that to be underweight, you have to develop an abnormal eating mentality, and that is not what this site, or my message, is about.

I advocate using your healthy thin mentality to deliver your body to its ideal weight range.  Again- not super skinny.

And this happens in stages.

Stage 1

You realize that dieting has made you food obsessed and has not gotten you permanently thin.  You regret all the sacrifices you made as a dieter and are saddened by all the disappointments you endured.

Stage 2

You are ready to learn how to develop your thin mentality.  You make that solemn promise to yourself that you will not diet again.  You do as much as you can to learn about the differences between being a dieter and being a person with a thin mentality.  You begin to make the transition.

Stage 3

You feel unbelievably free.  And that freedom scares you and makes you question whether or not this is too good to be true.  You know that you are doing the right thing.  It feels right.  It feels normal.  But you have a lot of anxiety during this time because you fear that you will gain weight.  You try to keep your focus on the one golden rule:  Stop eating when hunger is gone.  You know that as long as you do that, you will be okay.

Stage 4

You start to have a little faith and confidence that you can do this.  You enjoy eating what you crave when you are hungry and you are happy that  this is not making you gain weight.  In fact, your clothes are starting to feel looser.  And you start to really believe that maybe, just maybe, you can be a thin person, not a dieter.
You are glad you made a pledge to never diet again, and although you meant it at the time, you feel stronger in that commitment now.   People are asking you what you are doing, but you know that it is best to get stronger in your thin mentality before you try to defend it against other people’s opinions.  You know they mean well, but you also know how pervasive the pro-diet propaganda is in our culture, and you don’t feel strong enough yet to try to convince others of the wisdom of practicing thin behavior, not dieting behavior, to get thin.

Stage 5

You are starting to feel relaxed around food and eating and you enjoy your food more and more.  You are becoming very familiar with your hunger, and what foods you truly love, what foods take care of your hunger the best, and how to know when to stop eating.

When people ask you how you have lost weight, you are starting to get more comfortable talking about your thin mentality, and defending your decision to listen to your body instead of the “experts” to get and stay thin.

Stage 6

Some days you still wonder if this is all too good true to be true.  But you are starting to have a lot of optimism and confidence.  And although you know you can eat whatever you are hungry for, you notice that you are getting used to that freedom.  And that is good.  You enjoy desserts and french fries and other once forbidden foods, but you actually find that since they aren’t taboo, a bit of the thrill of eating them is gone.

Stage 7

One morning you wake up and realize that you are that thin person you always wanted to be.  You don’t obsess about food, you are happy with your weight, you have energy in your life for other issues besides your weight.  You are comfortable, relaxed and happy.

These stages are just a rough outline.  And you may cycle through them in a straight line, or you may waffle back and forth a bit.  That is fine.  You are unique, and your journey will be unique too.   And some people will take three months to get to stage 7- others may take 3 years.

There is no better alternative.  You know that.

Believe in yourself.  Listen to your body.  Respect your cravings.  Value your hunger.

It is a gift that means wonderful enjoyment is in the near future.  And stop when your hunger “sauce” is gone.