Archive for: April, 2014

Does This Bunny Scare You??


scary bunny

Bunnies like this used to scare me too!

I was sure it was going to make it’s way on my plate and into my mouth- I had no control over the situation!

I would have been “good” all week, and then, just when I was on the brink of getting to my “goal weight” it would be Easter (or insert any holiday here).  There would be mounds of food, delicious fantastic special food.  I had to “gear up” to fight it.  Give myself pep talks and rewards- (If I stay on my diet at Easter dinner, and just nibble some ham, I will buy myself a new pair of shoes…)

I know you know what I am talking about…

How did I tame the chocolate bunny?

Thin Mentality eating got rid of all food fear for me.  And you can do this too.

We are all built from the same set of biological drives.  And guess which drives Mother Nature made extremely strong-  the drive to answer hunger is in the top 3- along with water and sex.

So, stop fighting your hunger drive and you will win the war with the bunny.  Work WITH your hunger drive, not against it.

I have seen commercials lately for a pill that is supposed to make you full sooner.   Don’t resort to some pill whose side effects may possibly only be known after a lot of damage has been done to well intentioned dieters, (remember phen phen?)

Instead, really take your time to reacquaint yourself with your body’s signals.

One of the women in this commercial puts her hand on her stomach and asks herself, am I hungry?  Okay well that is a very good first step.  And it is so sad that someone out there in TV land may see this and think that the way to learn is to take a pill.

No No No.

Just keep paying attention.  Have some food when you are hungry.  How do you feel?  Are your taste buds still singing?  Are you still drooling?  Really, these are signs that you are still hungry.  But we are all different.  I know I say that a lot, but you really need to understand that learning about hunger and absence of hunger is an individual thing too.

Take the time to get in touch with your food preferences, your food requirements, your hunger.

We all know how horrible it is when you have over stuffed yourself and you are miserable asking yourself, “Why did I eat that…”  Right?

That is a very powerful signal to stop eating. But try to really see the early warning signs of eating too much too.  Pay attention to that sigh you take.  Hmmm-  Maybe your body is trying to slow you down?

I don’t know!  It is your body- take some time to check out your patterns.  It is an enjoyable thing to do this.  Honestly.  It gives you power, a calmness over food, and helps you to reconnect eating with hunger.

And that is the key to weight loss: Eating when hungry.  And if you have been overweight for a long time, yes, you may feel stuck.  But the way out is still learning to eat in response to hunger.  And, and this is a big AND, stopping when hunger is quiet.

And guess what-  you need less food than you think you do…

That is not bad news.  I enjoy food now so much more with my thin mentality than I ever did in my life as a dieter.  Overall, I eat less, yes.  But it is better, happier, and I am in charge.  I promise if you can eat when you are hungry, the world is  a good place.

And, the best news, I am not ever scared of chocolate bunnies anymore…



You Fear Gaining Weight, But A Scale Messes You Up


A few of you have been posting on Facebook that you are worried about getting started with your thin mentality and gaining weight.

I 100% understand your fear, anxiety, and the problem of getting started.

You think that what I am saying is too good to be true.  You fear gaining weight.  You cannot believe that your body is trustworthy.  You can’t believe that all that nutrition information you have in your head is worthless- even harmful.

Okay, let’s break this down.  As you are learning how to shed your diet mentality, the fundamental principle that you must follow is this:

You must delay eating until you are hungry.

If you eat what you crave but do not wait for hunger, you will gain weight. Yes, you will.  When you are tempted to eat without hunger, remind yourself of this:

Anytime you eat when you are not hungry, you are betraying your body.  Do you go sit on the toilet when you don’t have to go? Do you scratch your arm when you don’t have an itch? Do you go to bed when you are not tired?

Make eating as normal as scratching an itch, going to the bathroom when you have the urge, and going to bed when you are tired.  Don’t this sound simple, easy and normal?

So is your thin mentality.

But you can mess up all of your biological drives if you treat them like you do eating.  If you continually scratch your arm everyday at 11 am, I bet, over time, you would do it without thinking.  Or if you started to go to the bathroom when you didn’t need to,  you would train your bladder to go more.  Or if you stopped going to bed when you were tired, you would mess with your sleep cycle.

So, as you ditch your diet mentality, remember that what I am asking you to do, eat in response for hunger is NORMAL.  NORMAL. NORMAL!!

When you realize that waiting for hunger to eat is as normal as going to bed when you are tired, you will, I hope, begin to understand that even though you are nervous about giving up your diet mentality, it is logical and normal to eat this way.

Keep saying to yourself,

“I am not asking myself to do anything weird, faddish or bad for me, I am simply re learning how to eat.  I have been “brainwashed” by the billions of diet ads out there to think that eating what I crave in response to hunger is weird.  In fact, it is normal.  I will wait for hunger eat what I crave, make sure that I keep checking in with myself to see if hunger has ebbed, and then I will stop eating until hunger comes back.  And happily I get to eat many times a day!

 So stop worrying and start reconnecting hunger and eating.  And I have to mention the scale again.  I know you want to use it to measure your progress, but it messes you up!!

It was hard for me to give up the scale too, so I empathize with you if you struggle with this.  But honestly, weighing yourself IS A TRIGGER TO EAT.

Here are possible scenarios:

You weigh more than you thought-

Result:  You feel depressed, worried, don’t eat when hungry so you weaken the bond between eating and hunger, and worry you don’t have a thin mentality inside

2. You weigh less than you thought-

Result:  You feel like even though you ate cookies yesterday, you lost weight so you can probably eat more than you thought, so you eat even when you are not hungry, hindering your development of a thin mentality.

3.  You weigh what you thought you would weigh.

But your weight fluctuates for lots of reasons including dehydration, humidity, sodium, hormones, inaccurate scales blab la bla, so it may not be accurate at all.  Especially if you weigh yourself frequently, it is not accurate enough to be helpful!

So instead of relying on the scale, make yourself keep asking that question:

Am I hungry?

Then delay eating until hunger arrives and stop eating when hunger is quiet.

Use your ability to answer this question as your progress, not the number on a scale.  Progress, not perfection.

That is all you need to do.  You will be fine.  You will lose weight.

(And this gets easier and easier over time)

(And, if I can do this- then so can you!!!!!)

(And it is way more fun!)