Archive for: March, 2013

Eating is normal. Fearing eating is not

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Think of all of other biological “functions.”

Do you go to the bathroom when you don’t need to go.  Do you avoid the bathroom when you need to go?  Of course not.  That would be awful, stressful, and cause you harm.

Why is it okay to ignore hunger?

Why is it okay to eat when you aren’t hungry?

Short answer:  It isn’t.  It messes you up.  It is like playing with fire.

A study put normal men on a diet for two months.  The repercussions of that diet were devastating.  Both to their mental and physical health. They became food obsessed, gained back their weight, and had higher incidences of depression.

This study was done in the 1940s.

Do you know why there aren’t more studies like this being done?

Who would pay for them?

The diet industry doesn’t want to sponsor research that would make them the problem.

But, the diet industry IS THE PROBLEM.

The BILLIONS of dollars spent to disconnect you from your body has had a devastating effect on millions of us.

I know many of you reading this just can’t believe that the process that you have used to lose weight has actually made sustained weight loss impossible for you.  But it has.

But when you are desperate-  “I have 4 weeks to fit into that dress,” you are coming from a place of weakness and desperation.  You will make desperate decisions in an effort to “do something!, quick!”

And this is what the diet industry loves.  You will forget that you have lost weight many many times and have gained more back each time.

Don’t rely on me to convince you of the illogical and flawed paradigm of dieting.  Just examine your own life and those around you.

And in case you have a mother or boyfriend who says, “just exhibit some self control,” please remember this:  If you have ever been able to diet, you have plenty of self control. The fact that you can’t keep it off is NOT an indictment of your strength.

It is an indictment of the diet paradigm.

Please, be part of a movement against this misery.

And be thin by reconnecting with the beautiful body you were born with.

Even lumpy, out of shape bodies have that beauty.  So don’t despair.  It is in you.  You MUST let it out. You must reconnect.

Read these blogs for daily support.  Read my book for a comprehensive understanding of how to get started.  Follow me on twitter, @megmeranus, on youtube, diets are fattening – etc.

I am here trying to build a community of support for this smart, re-normalizaiton of eating.

I want you to be happy, relaxed and THIN.  No food obsessions, no guilt, and no motivation for bingeing.  Doesn’t that sound pleasant?

And if you know a persoIf you think you can’t do this, please remember that the diet industry has spent a lot of money making you believe that.  We were born with thin mentality.  Just like the animals in the forest.  Yes, you were.  Yes, you were.  Yes, you were.  You are a naturally thin person.  Rediscover that.  The extra pounds you are wearing now, do not mean that you were not.

Keep in touch, be part of this.  LIfe is so, so much better this way.

The first steps are baby steps, it gets easier, your body will talk to you when you start listening…


Those Extreme Exercise Programs – Not Smart

LardassDon’t put yourself in a position to be yelled at or demeaned when you are exercising.  That kind of “motivation” backfires.  Do exercise that makes you feel good and proud, not lousy.

After all, don’t you want to find a routine that will work for the rest of your life?

Our culture’s quick fix mentality is propping up the diet mentality.  And the diet and fitness industry are happy to oblige with STUPID, yes stupid solutions.  Sorry-  but really it is simply stupid to embark on an unsustainable diet, or exercise plan.  Right?

Isn’t it miserable to lose weight and gain it back- fast.  Isn’t it awful to get in great shape only to flab out again?

Well, every time you start a diet or extreme fitness program say to yourself, “I a going to diet or go on PX 90 or whatever and get  thin and then I will gain it back.”  Don’t stop at “I am going to diet and get thin…”  Because, as you KNOW, that is not the ed of the story.

And those exercise programs that require an hour a day of intense working out  backfire, just like dieting does.  And frequently, trainers “bully” overweight exercisers thinking that they are “helping” them.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t exercise!  Of course, if you are listening, your body is telling you to get moving!  Every time you are stiff after sitting in a chair all day, or out of breath after you climb stairs your body is giving you a message:  move!!

But, find something you like and something that its into your schedule.  I taught fitness and was a trainer for years.  The people who succeeded at  maintaining an exercise routine were the ones who were reasonable in their goals.  They worked out a sustainable amount.

They weren’t the 7 day a week “gym rats.”  Eventually, 99% of those fade away.

Those in a nice, reasonable routine make it through the years with good fitness levels.  They don’t work out the hardest, or the most.  But they work out consistently.

And that is where fitness is:  consistent, long term participation in exercise, or as I prefer to call it, sports, that you love,   For me, it is tennis.   If I had to jog on a treadmill while some trainer yelled at me, I would leave.

Find something you enjoy-  and just get started.  It can be ten minutes three times a week to get started.  If your body trusts that you won’t punish it with an hour of jumping after you haven’t worked out for 5 years, you will be working with your body, not against it.

And then, progress into a reasonable sustainable schedule that works in your life and that you actually enjoy.  If you say there isn’t anything, you haven’t given yourself a chance.


Eating Out of Habit Isn’t Thin Behavior

heavy woman watching TV while eating junk foodWhen you are trying to establish a thin mentality, beware of eating out of habit.  That includes not only what you are eating, but when.

Just because a clock says that it is 8 am, doesn’t mean you have to eat breakfast.  Always, always, always ask yourself, “Am I hungry?”

Some days you will eat breakfast.  Some days you may only want coffee.  Some days you will eat a lot at lunch, some days you won’t.  Same with dinner, and eating snacks.

There only rule you must pay attention to is: pay attention to your body!

You may think, “Well, I really like getting up in the morning and having a bowl of cereal, or whatever.”  Maybe you do, and maybe your body is a morning eater and you need that.  That could be completely fine for you.  So don’t fear that you have to give up eating something that you really crave.  You may really need that morning food.

But make sure it isn’t just a habit.  And eating out of habit may be ok, and you may enjoy the routine.  But, eating when you aren’t hungry, even if it is a nice routine, is so much less satisfying than waiting for true hunger.

Again, I know I say this a  lot, but don’t fear hunger.  Embrace that hunger means some really enjoyable eating is on the way!  I am not saying to suffer with hunger.  When you are hungry, eat!

Just experiment and learn about how you feel, when hunger is okay, and when it makes you feel bad.  Learn how to take care of it in the  most compatible way for your life.

If you know that you don’t like a big breakfast, but that by 10 am you are always really hungry, then figure out a way to take care of that.  Take something with you that you enjoy.

And learn how much, or how little, it takes to “calm” your hunger.  That is a really good thing to know.

So as you are learning to be a thin person, watch out for eating out of  habit, experiment with how to best take care of yourself.

Over time, you will get better and better at responding appropriately to your body.  And you are the only one who can do that for yourself….


100 Calorie Snack Packs


I wrote on Facebook today that Dr. Oz pointed said researchers found that people who eat 100 calorie snack packs actually eat more…

I thought it was excellent that he pointed that out- ha!  If you read my blog, you know I frequently don’t like what he says because he props up the diet and “magic” food mentality.

Here is my take on the snack pack situation:

Why aren’t we embarrassed that we “need” someone to portion control for us?  Are we that lame?  Can we not put a few chips on a plate and “trust” ourselves to eat until satisfied?

Apparently not.

So we pay a higher price for someone to put the “right” amount of chips or cookies or whatever in a bag for us.

Now think about that.  You think that someone outside your body knows better than your own body how much food you need.  Your body knows what you did that day, how much you “burned,” how much you ate last night, etc.

Your body knows that you worked out really hard, for example,  and few salty chips would be great.

Yet, you just grab the snack pack and eat the whole thing no matter what.  But that one size fits all doesn’t work.  Be honest, haven’t you ever eaten three of those “snack packs” in a row-  or four or five…

And those snack packs build a diet mentality by putting your portion control out of your hands and putting it in someone else’s.

People!  Take charge of your own eating.  If you crave a few chips, you are not “bad.”  Sometimes that is exactly what I want.  I used to have those stupid little bags in my pantry.  Yes, I sadly paid more for less food.

Now I have a big ole bag of those salt and pepper chips that I love in my pantry.  Literally weeks will go by and I will not have one.  I am not afraid to have them around.  They have zero power over me.

I promise that wasn’t always the case.  LIke you, (maybe) I used to only have so called healthful snacks around.  And finally, when I “broke” and binged, I tell you, nothing was safe.  I would eat all the snack packs at one sitting etc.  Ugh.  I laugh now, because I picture myself, and it was so silly and such a waste of my life.  (Actually it makes me sad too.)

I want you to get where I am- where you don’t fear food.  Where you don’t give your decision making power over what you eat to some stranger who filled those snack packs or decided how much to put on your plate at a restaurant.

You decide how much you eat, and when you eat, and what you eat by… paying attention to yourself.  Oh my this normal concept seems so revolutionary!

Someone is making a lot of money off us.  “Yes, lets put less chips in the single bag and charge more.”  Can you imagine that conversation at their marketing meeting?  “Do you really think people will pay more for less???”


Please keep faith in yourself.

You will get the thin body to match your thin mentality.  It isn’t quick but it is permanent, and it is a pleasant “journey.”  You will learn a lot about yourself.  And you too will look back at 100 calorie snack packs and sigh…


Concrete advice on recognizing true hunger

unhappy_stomach_by_nevtariOk, I get a lot of questions about how to recognize true hunger.

You have to block out all circumstantial eating cues such as a clock says it is “lunchtime”, or you see a delicious-looking cookie in a bakery window.

You must wait for biological hunger.  You will not need to “look for” true biological hunger!  It will find you.  It will be unavoidable, and unmistakable.

Is your stomach growling?  Does your mouth water the second you think of food?  Are you unable to concentrate on what you are doing?  Then you are hungry!

If you can easily distract yourself from eating, you aren’t hungry.  And if you can’t decide what you want, then you aren’t hungry.

And, as you are learning to recognize true hunger, remember that the first time you feel a hunger pang isn’t an “emergency.”

(By the way, please notice I did not call it  hunger “pain.”  Do you call it thirst pain?)

It is like when you look at the gas tank of your car and it is on 1/4 full.  You don’t feel like you need to immediately stop and get gas.  You are just aware that soon you will need to get some.  You may plan out where you will stop, how you will pay etc.  But you don’t panic and just pull over immediately at some station that has the highest price!

No, you simply recognize that you will need gas soon.

But, if you wait until the red warning light goes on, problems can arise.  You can get stuck in traffic, may not be able to find a gas station etc.

It is the same with fueling up your body.

First, you notice hunger, and make a plan to eat soon.  Then, when you feel more urgent hunger, I call this Stage 2,  and you eat.  If you wait too long- Stage 3 hunger- then problems arise.  You may feel awful, have no nice food available, and just end up filling up on anything because you are desperate to eat.  This isn’t good!

To sum up:

Stage One hunger is noticing hunger.  You are not desperate, you just notice you will need to eat something soon.

Stage Two hunger is when you should eat.  You have had a few biological cues to eat, you are craving something specific, and you are unable to distract yourself from eating.

Stage Three hunger is when you have ignored your hunger too long.  You are more likely to overeat and  eat things you don’t even like  because you are desperate.

Please follow me on Twitter to help stay connected with these principles.  @megmeranus

The pro diet messages are everywhere-  be too smart to fall for those messages and stay true to your natural thin mentality.


Waffle House Was Yummy

wafflehouseoutsideI went to a diner last night – a Waffle House that just opened near me.

Years ago, when I was a dieter, I would have had to negotiate this meal very carefully.  What can I eat that isn’t “bad.”  I would have had plain eggs, fruit,  dry toast and diet coke.

This is how it works for me now, with a thin mentality.

I ordered two eggs, ham, and a  waffle- because it was a new Waffle House and I had never had one of those famous waffles.  It came with hash browns.  It was a big plate of wonderful food.  I also had coffee with cream.

I ate most of the eggs and ham.  Then I ate a bite or two of hash browns and about one quarter of one waffle with syrup and butter.  I enjoyed every bit, had a wide variety of flavors etc. and it was great.

I took home a doggy bag.

If you added up the calories in what I ate, they probably would have been about 600-700.  I didn’t think about the calorie count last night.   I just am letting you know approximately how much food we are talking about here.

If I had eaten a “diet meal” like I used to, the calorie count would have probably been about 500.  I wouldn’t have enjoyed it nearly as much.  And then you know what I used to do?  When I got home after having a meal I didn’t love, I would have a bite or two of some treat when I got home.  That would easily have added another 200 calories to what I ate.

So, the point is, I would have probably eaten about the same amount of calories as a dieter as I did eating what I had last night.  But last night was way better.  I felt completely free, satisfied, experienced a fun meal, and when I got home, it didn’t even occur to me that I needed a little “treat” before bed.

You can say that fruit and dry toast would have been more healthful.  If you examine one meal of mine and compare it to a diet meal, you could make a case that that individual meal was less fatty or sugary or whatever.

But that is not how nutrition happens!  You have to look at the whole picture.  What is your next meal, and your next and your next.  And I know that my body, which is “on my side” will request that I eat some vegetables and fruit some days and waffles and syrup on others.

Yours will too!  Free yourself from your diet mentality and trust that your body wants good nutrition and will guide you to it.

As you get your thin mentality going, I know you are afraid that you will gain weight, not lose weight.

But you will never gain weight if you eat only when you are hungry, and stop when you aren’t hungry anymore.  Remember, you didn’t get fat eating when you were hungry!!

And say to yourself, as you look at the second half of the hamburger that you ordered, ate half of, and aren’t hungry for anymore, “Yes, it still looks good.  And I can eat it all- just not all at once!  When I get hungry again, I can finish it.”

It really is a fun, nice way to live-  I promise.  And way “cooler” than being a stoic dieter.  ugh-  or constantly struggling with being overweight- ugh.


At First You Might Feel Like A Fish Out of Water


As you are trying to reconnect with your body and listen to your innate hunger cues to know when to eat, you may feel like “a fish out of water.”  You are not used to the freedom of being able to eat what you want when you are hungry.  I get it.

So here are some pointers.

You know you are hungry when just the thought of food makes your mouth water.  And you know you are hungry when you start to lose the ability to concentrate fully on whatever you are doing.   If you can successfully “ignore” your hunger, (by getting busy with something) then you are not hungry.
You need to spend some time learning about your own hunger.  Yes, your hunger patterns are going to be unique to you.  And it is a rewarding kind of “self discovery” to get to know those patterns.

I know mine very well, and that awareness give me a feeling of control and confidence.  There is no fear that I will blow it or eat for inappropriate reasons.
For example, I know that I often experience a “warning” hunger signal.   I know that first hunger signal isn’t an emergency hunger signal.  It is just letting me know that soon I will need to take care of myself.  How nice!  No panic, no fear, no stress.

When I was a dieter, I feared hunger because I knew I was not going to be “allowed” to answer it with food of my choice, or in an amount necessary to satisfy my hunger.  “Oh great, I can eat some lean chicken on whole wheat with mustard.”  So hunger always ended in an unsatisfactory experience.  But when you are eating with a thin mentality, hunger is always rewarded in a satisfactory way.

I know how to take care of my hunger.  And I know how much hunger to “tolerate” for the best eating experience.

Give yourself a chance to learn about your hunger.  Hunger is circular, not linear.  Your first hunger pang is not an emergency!   And when your body trusts that you will answer your hunger in satiating way, you are on your way to a strong thin mentality.