Archive for: May, 2012

Poor Jessica Simpson

If you are new to this blog, read the Introduction Blog first date May 2, 2012.

I just heard that Jessica Simpson has signed a contract to be a celebrity spokesperson for a weight loss company as soon as she had her baby.  Instead of having faith in herself, that she can have her baby and get back to a good weight for her, as a naturally thin person would, she is saddling herself with the misery of a new diet after she delivers.  Honestly, it makes me so sad.

Here she is this successful, strong woman who is going to abdicate all her wishes, desires and preferences to have some “nutritionist” at a profit-driven diet center tell her what to do and when.   She may say to herself, “I need this, I would just stay fat if left on my own.”  Well, actually, I believe that.  She, like many others is so disconnected from her own body that she doesn’t know what to eat or when.

Jessica-  your body will tell you if you just listen!

I know that her weight has gone up and down a bit over the years.  She is, I am guessing, either on a diet or gaining weight.  Like you, perhaps, she has lost the ability to listen to a powerful and really important sense that Mother Nature gave us:   HUNGER.   You never gained a pound by eating when you were truly hungry and stopping before you were over-full.

If you could trust yourself that by eating only the foods you really love in a quantity that satisfied, but didn’t overload your stomach, you would be free.  But you don’t trust yourself.  And clearly, neither does Jessica.  Again how sad that the diet industry has made us feel this way.

The next time you eat a meal, do what a thin person does:

By Behaving Like a Thin Person, You will Become a Thin Person

Today’s example:
A dieter measures their cereal for breakfast.  The dieter then has water, not juice because juice is a lot of calories.  Then the dieter has coffee with skim milk or no milk at all and a pack of artificial sweetener.  At around 10 the dieter is hungry and eats something she doesn’t really love, or is grouchy until lunch.

A “naturally” thin person gets up and considers whether or not she is hungry.  She enjoys her coffee with cream and real sugar, if she wants,  and thinks about what she might like to eat.  She realizes she is actually very thirsty and would so enjoy a glass of fresh squeezed orange juice.  She enjoys it tremendously.  Then she looks at the clock and realizes that she is running late.  She feels good, not hungry, just refreshed from the oj and the delicious coffee and goes to get dressed and get on with her day.   What?  no breakfast??  Well, not this day.  But the thin person knows that if she gets hungry at ten, she will have something.  She isn’t afraid of hunger, or weakness, because she knows that she can eat whenever she is hungry.  She doesn’t do “preventative” eating.  She lives in the moment and enjoys her food way more than the dieter, although she is not over eating.  She trusts herself and doesn’t rely on some stranger to tell her what her body needs on any given morning.  She is listening to her body, so she knows.



People frequently ask me how I can eat a hamburger or fries, or creamy clam chowder, or cake or whatever and still be slim.   I try to explain it in a sentence, but I never can.

It takes a long time to explain to hardened dieters that they have been doing it all wrong.  That is why I began this website and blog.

I once was a hardened dieter.

I knew the calorie count in every food I ate.  I could diet with the best of them.  But I was never where I wanted to be.  I was either heavy and miserable, dieting and miserable, or newly  temporarily “thin,” knowing I was going to lose control and gain all my weight back.

I also managed a Nutrisystem when I was in graduate school.  And I was an aerobics instructor for 15 years  and a spinning instructor for 2 years.

Believe me, I know the psychology of dieting and exercising.  I know the misery.  I know the failure, the frustration, the way dieting sucks your energy away from other important parts of your life, and how dieting  makes you want to skip social events and hide.

But I also know that if you can kick the diet habit, you can make peace with food.  You can make peace with yourself.  And your body can be thin, healthy and strong.

I have achieved this.  And I am rare.  I do not say this in an arrogant way.  I say this because it is true.  And I so want you to enjoy the same success.  It is wonderful.

It takes a different kind of strength than the strength that dieting requires.

You need to be strong enough to handle comments from your relatives like, “You’re gonna eat that?”  And you need to be strong enough to ignore the thousands of dieting messages you get every week from TV, the web, and your friends.

You also have to be capable of delayed gratification.   By that, I mean you have to take a long range view of your life.  This is definitely harder for younger people.  But I hope you can see that on and off dieting for the rest of your life is miserable.  And I am offering you an alternative that will set you free.

Start reading the section on my website called “Diets Are Fattening,” if you want more discussion now.  And check back tomorrow for more here.