Archive for: February, 2012

Mika Brzezinski Doesn’t Get It

mika_brzezinski-01Mika Brzezinski is a host on MSNBC’s Morning Joe.

She is lean, a runner and has a huge diet mentality.

And, ironically, she wrote a book called “Obsessed” about her battle with her weight.

She is a smart, funny woman who has spent time examining this issue, yet she is completely blind to the real problem.

She doesn’t trust herself.

If there is a donut on the set, she freaks out.  She exclaims, “Get those donuts out of here- I can’t eat them I moderation!!”   And, she scolds others who eat what she fears.

Her “good” food/“bad” food perspective runs deep.  She is all for the ban on large servings of soft drinks that Mayor Bloomburg in NYC sponsored.   She mocks fast food and quivers at the mention of a French fry.

Why doesn’t she trust herself?  Where does her severe attitude come from?

She believes that the way she behaves around food when she is off her diet is the way she would behave around food all the time.

But what she needs to understand is that the very diet she thinks is her savior is the practice that is hurting her the most.  Rigid dieting leads to binge eating.  If she would stop dieting, and make a 100% commitment to never dieting again, her true food behavior would emerge.   She would stop fearing food.  She would trust that if she hungered for a donut she could have one and move on with her day.

People!   That diet you went on does a lot more to you than you think.  It completely perverts your relationship with food.  Hunger and the denial of food destroy your healthy, normal relationship with food.  And the more diets you go on, the worse it gets.

You end up with:

An obsession with eating and not eating

A lowered metabolism

Mood swings

A flabbier body because of the yo yo weight loss/gain

And there is a lot of evidence that chronic dieters are anxious and depressed.  Of course they are!  Their poor bodies have been alternately starved or stuffed for years!  (Decades??)

Do not underestimate the impact that dieting has on you, your body, and your life.  Mika is happy to be thin, but she is paying a huge price.

It doesn’t have to be that way.  You can be thin, and have a great relationship with food and your body.  You can eat what you love and celebrate food instead of fearing it!

Remember, all those diet ads you see, all those “doctors” who promote products and their TV shows are doing so to keep you dieting and believing you need a bunch of “products” to avoid fatness.

Follow the money!!

The most powerful documentary I have seen on this subject can be found on YouTube- It is a BBC piece- four one hour parts.-  “The Men Who Made us Thin.”

Here is a link to the first one-

Build your thin mentality and leave your obsessive, damaging diet mentality behind…


The Big Bad Oreo



Did you hear the news about Oreos being as addictive as cocaine.

This is just another in a long line of inflammatory “news flashes” that make us fear food instead of appreciating it.

Turn the message around.  Think how fantastic it is that something as readily available as an Oreo cookie can provide you with that much pleasure.  It is a wonderful part of our human experience, eating an Oreo.

And when you have rejected that debilitating diet mentality for a healthy thin mentality, you will never fear cookies again.  You won’t dream of equating a delicious cookie to a” brain-fryer” like cocaine.

It is a silly comparison.

I don’t care what the scientists say- I am using common sense.  An Oreo and cocaine are not equivalent.  Oreos can be enjoyed in appropriate amounts with no downside.

But the headline for this story garnered lots of press and made people feel like they have no power over the big bad Oreo.

Yes you do!  Ditch that diet mentality that makes you feel like a victim to circumstance and build your healthy thin mentality.  You will rejoin the world of guilt free eating and appreciation of the incredible bounty we have.

And you will calmly, without payback, eat less and get back to your ideal weight range.  And, by the way, you will eat less when you tap into your hunger, but you will enjoy it way more, and feel powerful instead of weak.


Not Losing Fast Enough?


What happens when you understand the wisdom of a thin mentality, but you aren’t losing weight fast enough?

I understand your frustration.

But you didn’t gain the weight overnight, and you will not lose it overnight.  If you do lose weight fast, you will gain it back-fast too.-  Your powerful body is programmed to survive and if you starve it, it will send you massive eating signals that will cause you to regain all of your weight and then some.

I always remind you to look at your own personal history, or people you know, to see how true this is.

So as you build your thin mentality, you will have to make peace with slow weight loss.

But think about it.  If you lose a pound a week, (if you are very heavy, it could be more) and it is permanent and doesn’t require skipping parties, or buying special foods, or abstaining from the meals you love, the time goes quickly.  You aren’t suffering on a diet.  You are making a permanent change that will last for the rest of your life.

And that is way better than losing thirty pounds in two months and gaining it back in one-  Yea it was quick, but gaining weight back is the WORST!

Having said all of this, here are a few things to think about to make sure you are using your thin mentality:

-As you eat, check in with your hunger level often, “How am I feeling, Could I be done? Do I need more?  Does the food still taste amazing?  Are my taste buds still singing?

– Remind yourself, “I can stop eating, and if I find distracted by food and the thought of eating more, I can always eat again.”   Or, “ Yes I love this food so much and I want to have it all, and I can, just not all at once-  I will save it for later!”

-Prepare for those times when you need a little something to eat, but don’t have time for a big meal, or for those times when you stopped eating too soon.  Having a little snack, something you usually like (for me it is peanuts) in your pocket or purse gives you the confidence to stop eating at a meal because you know if you get hungry, you have a little something with you.

-Take notice of your hunger rhythms and learn from it!  Learn about yourself so that you can take care of yourself appropriately.  For example:  If you notice it takes your stomach a few minutes “tell” you that you have had enough, remember that!  Perhaps take a little break and give your body a chance to tell you that you are satisfied.

Living your life with a healthy thin mentality will bring you weight loss, peace, improved self-esteem and respect for your body.  It will free you from obsessive thoughts about what to eat, who much you weigh, how much weight you can lose by this party, this summer this whatever!  The war is over.


Doctor Advocates Trusting Your Body

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I watched a YouTube video from Bert Herring, M.D. who worked at the prestigious National Institute of Health. He developed the Fast Five diet and I wanted to learn more about it.  I am always on the prowl for new diets because I want to see how they are packaging their messaging so I can warn you!

If you watch this video, please let me emphasize that I am not endorsing this diet.

But there are parts of his message that strike a chord with me.  Especially this:
He advocates trusting your body to guide you in food choices.  I LOVE this.  But I am a “lay person” telling you to trust your body because your body knows what it needs.  And he is a doctor saying that to you.
So although I disagree with the rules he sets forth about eating,   I just wanted you to hear this from a medical person so that maybe it will help you trust yourself more.He also says that “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day” is an advertisement for breakfast, not sound medical advice.Wow-  I love that and agree whole heartedly.  What matters?  Hunger matters.  Not hungry for breakfast- don’t eat!He also makes a good point about how your health is so much more than what you put into your mouth.  It is about your life, and if your life is enriching, and if you enrich others.I think that part of his talk is powerful stuff.

Bottom line:  We focus too much on food and eating perfectly.  We fear hunger, instead of embracing it as a great communication tool from our body.  We try to squish or cravings instead of trying to listen to them to understand what we need.

Your body wants to be in its ideal weight range.  Let it take you there.